1. The First Meeting Feature
Meeting Emma & Liam
This was the beginning of a fantastic journey; when Emma answered yes to Liam’s nervous question, and expectancy hung sharp in the air. The answer was as obvious as their love, no less, and so their adventure begun.
I’d be lying if I’d have said that this preparatory journey would be easy.
The solution to their questions however lied within Josette, our Wedding Planner’s answers, thankfully. And so the couple set a date for their first meeting with their chosen one, Josette.
I sat down together with Josette waiting for the couple to arrive, so that as a team we could bond with the pair, as well as to sit and discuss their expectations of their wedding. I, as the author of this blog, am not involved with the planning of weddings, but shall be over the course of the next year and a half discussing with you as future brides, grooms, and bridal party members, the ins and outs of wedding planning down to the very last detail of preparation for all those involved. This blog shall thus provide you with first-hand experience of what wedding planning is like, the step-by-step processes one must go through in planning a wedding, as well as discussing emotions, coping strategies, as well as providing you with advice, help, and tips from bridal party members who have been our clients and friends, along the way. Getting married, is not an easy task, but I assure you that I am here to help.
And so we saw our enamoured young couple waltz into the coffee shop, sit down, and happily introduce themselves. We exchanged introductions, as well as the cliché ‘kemm ghamlet shana illum! Donnu qatt m’hu se jhallina s-sajf!’, and began our discussion.
With a sparkle in her eye, Emma began saying how it’s been her childhood dream to have a luxury wedding, with a beautiful shimmering white dress, Jimmy Choo sparkling heels, and flowers everywhere. This was soon interrupted by her fiancé’s charismatic giggle, and an under-breath ‘typical’. I must admit, I giggled. Although I am currently not in a relationship myself, I found myself admiring the duo before me, as I felt myself relate to this Bride-to-be, as it seemed we had a lot in common, as well as found myself thinking that this is the kind of love I would want to find.
He cut my train of thought off by saying, ‘She’s been thinking about Victoria Swarovski’s wedding ever since it happened, with all the gems, the luxury, and riches,’ where he cut himself off by adding a Maltese comment, ‘hasra li ma nistax nifhem min fejn ha ngib il flus biex nikkuntenha! Gabitni qisni bank bla qies!’ Admittedly, all the women at table laughed, more so because we knew we could relate. Josette with reassurances softer than a cloud of cotton candy on days where a girl could crave sugar the most, added, “That’s why I’m here sweetie; to guide you into reaching common grounds for compromise,’ and cheekily stole a weighty glance at Emma, ‘without throwing your budget overboard!’
Josette took it upon herself to cut off the clamour by declaring, “Ma ninsewx lil Liam, ta!” when she added, “So, tell us about yourself.” Emma immediately cut him off short, before even giving him the chance to explain it all for himself; “From IT engineering, to the gym, to home watching football, and then, whatever extra time he has he spends it with his books!” And that is when Liam got defensive, “You aren’t that far! You go from the counting numbers and budgets for luxury travellers, to the gym, sometimes dance, or most probably shopping, unless you’re travelling; pity the way you budget for a living, yet fail to ever budget your own overspending on clothes! And when you are actually home, you’re working on that prized novel of yours.” As any woman in love would do, she used her strengths as his weaknesses, “My writing is the reason you fell in love with me,” and she silenced him by stealing a kiss, ‘right after I caught your eye wearing my Miu Miu cady dress! You thought I was the cutest girl in the world,’ to which he responded by blushing beetroot.
I must cut-off my recount of afternoon tea with the young couple here, for I fear my blog might become far too cheesy. For us as a Wedding Planner team, we must fully observe the couple’s mannerisms, characteristics, and jokes, in order for us to get to know them and understand them better, for us to provide the pair with options we think are best, as well as reassuring them of their decisions as well as fears, and tie loose ends or solving issues whenever necessary. A good planner is there to guide you through the planning process like a catalyst, and not to do the work for you. Hence they not only become your help, but your best friend throughout the journey.
Some Wedding Planner Myths Feature
If you had to ask us, when hiring a wedding planner it almost feels like you get yourself a fairy godparent like in all those Disney movies. While it is with a sad and deep regret that we admit that we haven't as of yet acquired magical abilities nor own a fully functioning magic wand, we do have a whole lot of love and care towards creating beautiful weddings. Our super power lies in creating a stress free planning process for the couple and also makes sure that the budget is stuck to as effectively as possible.
Many seem to believe that wedding planners only care about making money and insist that they don't really care about making people happy. However, truth of the matter is, wedding planners do this job out of pure passion in seeing couples getting happily married without having to stress too much about all the logistics. Moreover having guests at a wedding implies the need of giving 110% towards making them happy. A happy couple added to a group of excited and satisfied guests makes a job well done. Being greedy and seeking only money will only kill any sort of future work or success!
Others believe that hiring a wedding planner is too expensive and the only way a wedding planner would work with you is if you have a large or unlimited budget. This is most definitely not true. Here at My Wedding Planner we strive to bring to our lovely couple the best deals on the market and will make sure to fit everything within one's budget, as tight as it may be. In fact, we also work with on-the-day wedding planners packages especially for people who either, on the most part, want to plan the wedding on their own or else would just need a little extra help on the day itself.
Another myth that unfortunately seems to scare many couples is the idea that the wedding planner will eventually take over their wedding. However, truth of the matter is, the wedding planner will sit with you and create the wedding vision together with you. Then they will find you the necessary suppliers and vendors that will make your dream wedding a reality and supply you with a choice. Like this you have the final say on how exactly your wedding will look like!
With your wedding day well on its way, one of the things you need to make sure to slot in is a potential engagement shoot which will prepare you for your wedding day and the different photo-shoots that will happen throughout. Knowing just how stressful a wedding photo-shoot can be, especially for those who are not really accustomed to being in front of a camera, this blog post will give you some hints as to what you should do to feel more relaxed in front of the camera.
One thing you need to make sure of is that of getting to know your photographer before the shoot. The ideal scenario would be setting a meeting with them where you can plan out the details and style of the shoot according to your taste. It's always easier to pose for a photographer you know than one you never met before. Also using the same photographer for both your engagement and wedding day shoots will help greatly in this too. The engagement shoot should very much serve as a test run to see if the photographer is to your liking and also will serve as a basis for your photographer to know exactly how a couple would react in front of a camera in future situations closer to the wedding day.
When attending a photo-shoot make sure to wear something you will feel comfortable in. This will make your photos appear more natural and less forced, as well as contribute to a more relaxed day for saying "I do". Having a little drink (please not the word little) before the shoot can help tone down the nerves too!
If you know that you are quite an anxious person, make sure to schedule plenty of time for the shoot, especially on the wedding day. This will reduce the risk of running late on your special day. Ans maybe plan less formal photos, that will help you relax so much more!
Just remember: it's totally normal to feel scared in front of the camera, but it is very important to make sure that you relax as much as possible. You have no reason to feel scared or awkward, the photographer is there to make you shine, and trust us, they have all the right tools to do so.
By Nicole Borg
The Indian Wedding Experience Feature
If there’s one thing that is for sure it’s that Malta is a country which is able to host weddings coming from different cultures and traditions, including the stunning Indian weddings.
Indian weddings tend to last for an average of three days. The first night would see the priest performing the ganesh pooja. The ceremony takes place at home where only the couple, the bridal party and also close relatives are allowed to attend. The second day is started off with the mehndi ceremony where the bride and her female friends, family members and esteemed guests will get their hands and feet covered in henna patterns. On the same evening the sangeet takes place where guests are invited to the wedding and get introduced to the couple’s families and enjoy some food as well as dance their nights away. The third and last day sees the main ceremony taking space including a cocktail hour and a reception.
If you’re not Indian or at least accustomed to the Indian culture and you are invited to such a wedding you will see a whole new way of celebrating this special day. You’ll get to experience the baraat or the grooms procession. Here the groom comes in on a decorated white horse and the guests circle him dancing to the beat of the dhal, an Indian drum. Following this the ritual continues with the greeting of the groom by the bride and her family and the exchanges of flower garlands as a symbol of each other’s acceptance.
When it comes to the wedding ceremony itself, you will get to see a whole other different approach where the priest, bride, groom, as well as their parents stay beneath the mandap, a construction similar to a canopy. The ceremony starts by the kanya daan act where the parents of the bride give her away and so the couple holds hands and goes around a small fires as part of the ritual - mangal phera. The couple will take the seven steps, similar to what we know as vows where they say how they will support each other and live a happy married life. Closing off the ceremony, the groom would apply a spot of red powder on the bride’s forehead and tie a black beaded necklace around her neck - the symbol of a married woman.
So if you have the pleasure of being invited to an Indian wedding be open to experience a whole new dimension to the start of a married life. Also wear a lot of bright and bold coloured clothing - you will most definitely fit right in!